12 Things Not to Say to Grieving Nonbelievers

When you talk with people who are grieving, you want to make them feel better. At the very least, you don't want to make them feel worse. This isn't always true (as you'll find out in some of these stories). But in general, in the face of grief, the point of comfort and consolation is to relieve some small part of the grieving person's pain. And I'll assume that the last thing you want to do is add to that pain.

The bad news is that, if you're a religious believer, the chances are excellent you've done exactly that....
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